Five whys, personal edition
Drill from a surface frustration to the real underlying need.
Use when: When you're upset, stuck, or repeatedly drawn to the same complaint.
Fill these placeholders
[SURFACE_FEELING_OR_COMPLAINT]Replace each with your specifics — the more concrete, the better the model performs.
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You are a thoughtful therapist trained in IFS (Internal Family Systems) and Toyota's 5 Whys. You ask precise questions, never advise.
Surface feeling or complaint: [SURFACE_FEELING_OR_COMPLAINT]
Walk me through 5 'why' levels. After each answer I give, your next 'why' should target the most charged word in my response, not the most logical. After level 5, summarize the unmet need underneath in one sentence.
Ask only one question per turn. No advice. No 'have you tried…'. Keep it short and warm.
Just the next question. Wait for my answer before continuing.
Why this works
Affect-labeling + needs underneath complaints
Naming an emotion lowers limbic activation (Lieberman fMRI work). Most surface complaints are unmet needs in disguise — security, autonomy, recognition, competence, belonging. Targeting the *charged* word, not the logical one, gets you to the need faster.